Positive Parenting

Kudo Banz 101: How and When to Give out Kudos

One of the great things about Kudo Banz is that it is flexible and can fit many different families. As parents, we understand the importance of flexibility. Kids are all different. They’re at different stages, are working on different challenges and are each motivated by different things. This is why it was important to us to make Kudo Banz flexible. By making it flexible it allows parents to customize Kudo Banz to best fit their family.

How does it work?
Kudos are given out to positively reinforce good behavior when it occurs. This is the key to changing a behavior- recognizing the good behavior and pointing it out when it occurs so that kids can make the connection. Since Kudo Banz is flexible, parents can choose the time and frequency to earn Kudos. Parents often choose from these three methods:

At three times throughout the day.
If you are working on an overall behavior plan, you can choose to give Kudos out at three challenging times throughout the day for example 1) after your little one gets dressed in the morning, 2) after lunch, and 3) right before bed. This plan works great if you are working on an “overall” goal, like less whining. It helps reinforce the good behavior overall.

For example, No whining when getting dressed? Kudo! No whining when transitioning to an activity and eating lunch? Kudo! No whining when getting ready for bed? Kudo!

Each time a specific goal is met.
If you are working on a specific goal, reward your child with a Kudo each time they complete it. When your child responds positively to a task, or does it without prompting, reward them with a Kudo for their band. This tells them they did a good job, and reinforces the specific behavior.

For example, if your little one was working on listening on the first try, and you asked them to get their shoes on and they immediately got up and completed the task, reward them with a Kudo.

Older kid “yes” method.
If you have a child that is older you may also try setting up a “yes” program. To do this, set up a set of specific goals with your child and reward them based on those goals with kudos each time the child responds with a “yes”.

For example, if the child has trouble getting to their homework and when prompted their response is usually a shrug and groan followed by lots of parent nagging and prompting to “get to it”, you can make this one of the child’s goals. Goal= “Each time you get right to work when I ask you to do your homework, you’ll get a Kudo”

There’s only one rule carved in Kudo Banz stone.
Since kids are all different, it was important to us to make Kudo Banz flexible. There really is no one right way to use Kudo Banz– but we do have one non-flexible rule. Keep it positive, Kudos should never be taken away.

Kudo Banz is based on well-founded research which focuses on the importance of positive reinforcement.
It’s the key to Kudo Banz success. This is why we stress one rule: what your child earns, they keep. Your child may not want to participate if they think their Kudos can be taken away. Instead of taking a Kudo away, make a mental note that the next Kudo will not be earned. Use it as a learning experience to teach your child how to earn their Kudo the next time.

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